What can we learn from animals
Pets save us from loneliness and stress. And they are able to teach us important lessons. life – of course, provided that we’re watching them closely and love them for what they are.
Contrary to popular belief, according to which animals, usually give birth to single people, most cats and dogs living in families composed of at least three people. The main reason that prompted them to get Pets, 26% of owners of dogs, cats, rats, and hamsters called love for animals and the joy of having a true friend and take care of it. Beneficial effects on child development is also an important factor: its lead as a key argument to 8% of pet owners. 19% insist on the exclusive “social role” their Pets, relieving owners from loneliness. Another 34% found it difficult specific answer to the question, saying he just can’t imagine life without an animal in the house.
“Want a kitten!”
So saith the child, and we have a kitten. Or hamster. Or puppy. Our main motive in this case: the child should grow up kind and responsible, and your own pet will become him in this matter assistant. Concerned about the development of children’s responsibility and independence, parents tend to put concerns about just priobretennogo on the shoulders of the child. And reach an opposite result: it’s really hard to cope with regular and not always pleasant new responsibilities. He feels confused and comes to the conclusion that care about who is weaker and smaller than you, is burdensome. So if we want our children to be responsible for those who tamed, they need it. to teach. To begin with, to take care of your new friend together.
The love of animals or love of self?
“Over the past half century the attitude to domestic animals in Russia, as elsewhere in the world, has significantly changed, – said the President of the center for animal rights protection “Vita” Irina Novozhilova . – If earlier the dog lived in the family mainly because that was guarding the house, and cats protected from rodents, now they are perceived as full members of the family. Among the veterinarians even coined the term “Pets”. Every year increases the demand for the services of zoopsychology, published numerous books, specialized magazines: people want to understand what you feel and think even their Pets.
Today we show concern, not like they used to be: hairdressers, hotels and tailor shop for dogs and cats, in abundance appearing around, make their lives similar to ours. We are happy to play this game without hesitation – do it all on your own animals? Whether they benefit from such a humanizing? “When the owner feeds a dog or cat that eats by himself, dresses up in clothes and places to sleep, he replaces his failed relationship with another person”, says animal psychologist Elena Fedorovich . “Forcing your dog or parrot to live an almost human life, we care not so much about his true desires, but about our own needs that we for some reason cannot be met – continues to Irina Novozhilova. – Trying, for example, to compensate for the lack of tenderness or lack of self-confidence”.
“A very loyal dog”, “sensitive, delicate cat” – we use a variety of language cliché when they talk about their Pets. “Discussion of the minutest detail of their lives, character and habits often masks our narcissistic need to be the center of attention, thinks the psychoanalyst Anna Sovitin . and often occurs in people who find it difficult to talk about myself.”
Attributing their favorites amazing gift to heal our spiritual ailments, we tend to exaggerate psychotherapeutic abilities allowed. “The companionship of a dog or a cat certainly helps us to cope with situational stress and tension, but does not solve deep psychological problems, – says Elena Fedorovich. – Watching the animals, we learn understanding without words, develop your intuition and powers of observation – I believe it is the first and is positive effect from communicating with them.”
The phenomenon of “pet” has evolved along with the human desire to conquer nature. “Since ancient times, people ambiguous attitude to animals: on the one hand, many of them a constant object of hunting, with another – human society is interested in replenishment of their populations, and therefore, they need to be, and his guilt in front of them to redeem, says anthropologist Artem Kozmin . – That is why today, as in ancient times, good hunters “talk” with those who should become their prey; in many tribes, living by hunting, bones of the murdered and eaten by the beast buried with military honors. Perhaps our love for Pets continues the tradition. Surrounding by care and attention of cats, dogs, horses, we unconsciously redeeming the mass murder of cows, pigs and sheep”. In other words, attachment to a pet allows a person to absolve themselves of blame for the killing of animals whose meat we daily eat, in fur and skin dressing.
“In dealing with Pets attract their uncritical attitude to us, – says Elena F. – unconditional emotional acceptance and mindfulness of our actions and emotional States. Many of the skills that we acquire, live near them, help to communicate with others and better understand myself.” Animals do not treat us in a literal sense, but they learn to accept and give love, not be afraid to Express your feelings. In other words, our relationship with Pets is not intended to substitute for, mimic human relations – they are only useful and enriching complement.